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A woman was stuck in a frustrating situation following the fallout from a vacation that she and her boyfriend had planned together. Not long before the trip, he had asked if his best friend could join them, and she agreed. He had had a difficult few months.
Things quickly went wrong with this new plan when her boyfriend's friend began discussing the cost of the vacation. She and he disagreed on how to split the cost of the accommodation. The friend got offended and decided to disinvite himself from the trip, upsetting her boyfriend. She wanted to know if she was in the wrong.
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Am I wrong for uninviting my boyfriend's best friend from our vacation after he made a comment about splitting costs?
I have been sitting on this for a week because my boyfriend is still upset with me about it. My boyfriend and I planned a trip together, just the two of us. About a month before, he asked if his best friend Marcus could join since Marcus was going through a rough time and needed a break. I wasn't thrilled but I agreed because I wanted to be supportive. When we started discussing costs Marcus assumed we'd split everything three ways including the accommodation I had already booked and partially paid for on my own card before he was even invited. I pointed that out and said he'd need to cover his share of the room going forward but the initial deposit was already split between me and my boyfriend.
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Marcus got annoyed and made a comment that I was being petty about money and that "this is why couples should not invite outsiders if they are going to make them feel like a burden." My boyfriend laughed it off.
I told Marcus calmly that if he felt like a burden maybe it wasn't the right trip for him. He took that as me uninviting him and told my boyfriend I kicked him out. Now my boyfriend is saying I was too harsh and that Marcus was already having a hard time. I did not explicitly uninvite him but I'm not going to chase him either. My boyfriend thinks I owe Marcus an apology.
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Marcus is right, he invited himself on a couples vacation so he probably shouldn’t come. Why does he even want to tag along when you’ll be enjoying YOUR holiday anyway? It’s weird
I mean, is your partner more concerned with upsetting you or upsetting his boyfriend Marcus?!
And if Marcus is pulling this now just imagine how awkward it will be when he doesn’t want to pay his share when you’re already away on the trip. Romantic dinner with your man? Oh Marcus is ‘going through it, can he tag along?’ Oh and now Marcus forgot his wallet. Or Marcus doesn’t have any money to pay for his share of dinner but that’s cool, you’ll pick up the tag because ‘Marcus is going through it’
I’m giving you the hot tip right now. If your boyfriend doesn’t choose YOU right now, Marcus won’t be the only one ‘going through it’
Yta to yourself. Marcus is your boyfriends boyfriend. You are the 3rd wheel. Why do you let yourself be disrespected that way? Your boyfriend invited a dude on your romantic trip. Wake up!
NTA. This was a dirty move on your bf's part. If he wants to help a friend, help the friend, but don't invite him on a couple's trip. Now you know who comes first.
NTA
My bf inviting his mate to my holiday would probably make me inclined to disinvite myself. Planning together is not the same as adding someone at the last minute.
As for an apology?? Your bf can’t be serious.
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